about abby girl adaptive

My 4 year old daughter has two older brothers, and she was overjoyed to discover we were having another girl in 2025! When we decided her name would be Abigail, she misheard and called her sweet little Trisomy 18 sister Abbygirl. 

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At just 6 weeks old, she needed a G-tube because swallowing was too hard. After that, I started looking for clothes that would let me feed her easily. I was deeply dismayed at what I found.

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Boy patterns. "Neutral" colors (which still makes babies look like boys, btw). Bigger sizes.

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I had never been one to care too much how cute my kids looked (I mostly dressed them in hand-me-downs from friends and neighbors), but I have to admit, something changed having a special needs baby.

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Abigail looked different. She developed differently. At 1 year old she was still only 12 pounds. She is missing an ear.

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Some people in my life believed I should not have given her interventions or surgeries. That I should have just cuddled her until she passed away. A lot of people still believe that if you can't do typical things like typical people, your life doesn't have value.